Guest, You’re Welcome Here

Guest, you are welcome here,
Be at your ease.
Get up when you’re ready,
Go to bed when you please.

We’re happy to share with you
Such as we’ve got,
The leaks in the roof
And the soup in the pot.

You don’t have to thank us
Or laugh at our jokes,
Sit deep and come often…
You’re one of the folks!

J.P. McEvoy, 1925

(Buzza Motto)

 

I’ve had this verse hanging on my fridge for about 30 years. It’s all faded and I wanted the words to recreate the banner.

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Mother Knows Best!

mother knows bestI’m chuckling here thinking again about last Thursday – another interesting day in our homeschooling life.

My 13 yo boy wakes up Thursday morning. This is the best day – sports action, then music (keyboard). Really good!

My 15 yo daughter is joking about ways to get out of going to Sports action (netball/ball skills), doesn’t want to go, would rather do anything else.

We’ve always made plans in one of three ways: 1. Mum+Dad make the decision (‘cos we’re the parents/adults and think, in the big scheme of things, this will be a good thing for you to do.
2. Let’s talk about the fors/againsts together, then M+D will ultimately make the decision, taking into account what you say.
3. Let’s talk about it, then you (children) make the decision, and M+D will work with you to help make it happen.

Sports was a #1 decision. You’re going, you’re going for at least two terms, you’re going to enjoy it, give it your best shot.

By the end of sports, 13 yo boy has badly bruised finger, realises he hasn’t brought his music, and is whimpering, declaring it’s a bad day, wanting to bail out on music (which he wasn’t allowed to).

15 yo girl enjoyed running around, seeing some different young people, and got complimented by the coach on her netball skills in the second game of netball she’s played. Let’s go to sports every day!

We’ll happily bundle into the van next Thursday, hopefully with the music bag, snacks and drinks …

Shows that sometimes we can listen too much to what our kids want and what they don’t.

Most times, Mother DOES know best!

2012 Word of the Year : Steadfast

carrsrdjune2012Steadfast

I don’t get caught in the trap of New Year’s Resolutions, which are usually doomed to fail.

I choose a word, phrase, character quality, song, or idea to meditate on, practice, engage, and dialogue with throughout the year.

http://pinterest.com/bankwhitt/2012-steadfast/

Steadfast.

Define:

What it is :

Resolutely or dutifully firm and unwavering
steady – firm – stable – constant – staunch – immovable
1. Fixed or unchanging; steady. Focussed.
2. Firmly loyal or constant; unswerving.

> steadfastness-brings-character-and-is-a-sign-of-maturity
http://mitsilancer.wordpress.com/?s=steadfast

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Bible Verses :

http://www.esvbible.org/search/steadfast/Psalms/

http://www.openbible.info/topics/being_steadfast 

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What it is not :

Changing my mind

People pleasing (includes my children)

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What it looks like in practice:

In a relationship : You are committed and dedicated to each other: your love is strong and it sustains your relationship through whatever life throws your way.

Learning to listen to God’s word

~ not needing to defend my parental position with my young teens

~ not feeling like I have to act/think in a particular way to gain someone else’s approval

– being aware of God’s always-love of me (makes me want to shout!!)

– knowing and knowing that my husband is on my side – yeah!

More Time Now I’m Off Facebook?

So, I’ve just deleted the Bookmark button to Facebook and will try to stay away from there until December 1.

I hope I do better than the Milk-Free Week I tried a few weeks ago. In that case, I did become more mindful of the huge number of things I eat with milk products in them! I failed more than once but did not give up trying until the week was out.

I have Pinterest (less time-consuming and it raises my spirit with beauty and creativity) and a couple of WordPress accounts – it’s not like I’m going cold turkey off the internet.

Here’s some videos that helped to bring about this change:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vmre4SeWunk&feature=related  – Close your Facebook account

https://www.facebook.com/help/delete_account

http://youtu.be/ZGEQmFL9McU ~ Truth Never Told – interesting 13 minute commentary * * *

As with all addictions, I need to consciously plan to change habits and to use time more constructively.

What comes to my mind?

  • play board games with my children more than one night a week,
  • read more,
  • meditate on God’s Word (Bible),
  • chat with my husband before 10 pm,
  • deep clean my room,
  • socialise with friends,
  • type up recipes and update recipe book.

… got any other ideas?

Treats allowed – sort of

One of the best ways that I lost weight in the past was to use steps and stairs instead of escalators or lifts.

I ate reasonably healthily. And went for a variety of colours on my plate.

I had an occasional treat of something *ginger*, eg gingerbread, gingernuts,

but I had:

  • no cake – or biscuits/cookies and other flour-rich foods.

  • no chocolate – or sweets/candy and other sugar-rich treats.

  • no chips (hot or cold) – or fatty foods. Limit butter and oil intake.

Everything I ate slowly …

I told myself how yummy it was –

how much I was enjoying it – and

not feeling guilty about eating it at all, even if it was one of my treats. Today we would call this ‘mindfulness’.

If you’re super organised and motivated you could also write down (use a tick system is easiest) everything everything everything you eat. This helps to keep you accountable.

In the years since, I find I control weight better when I plate a few things for lunch or snack, and then sit down at the dining room table.

Above all, enjoy life and living – and eat real food (not food products).

Because stress is no good for anything, except a slow death!

So try this: no cake, no chocolate, no chips.

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HS: Avoid Homeschool Burn-Out

Watch out for the notorious third term

– had winter (over it!), flus and coughs, cabin fever, getting tired,
maybe even need to re-evaluate what’s happening in the family.
Recognise the symptoms of depression (get help).
Be easy on yourself.

 

** Ring up a different homeschool mum/family in your district each week (or day?).
Invite them over or to a park – or invite yourselves over to their place
– take some munchies or the older kids can bake afternoon tea!
It’s important to stay face-to-face connected with each other.
Texts/emails are just not the same.

** Dance to music of all kinds.
Sketch using all sorts of media and styles.
Walk/run around a different street or park in your area each week/month.

** And repeat after me: I am a woman/parent first and foremost.
I don’t need to do ‘school at home’ in order for my children to be lovers of learning and discovery.

And I don’t need to do this alone. ♥

F: A Family Economy instead of Allowance Money

We were talking about pocket money on a homeschooling list. I wrote out what we did/do:

Throughout the week, when the children (age about 4-11 yo) did ‘above and beyond the call of duty!’, they got given a reward ring (from a large peanut butter jar – not to be twisted, kept round, and kept safe – they were responsible for it – gave them a clip to keep them on in their special drawer.) NOT for dishes, setting table, helping with laundry, nor making beds – these were the everyday things they did.

~ I had a notebook for each child that I stuck a sticker in with a citation “for being a wonderful hostess for our guests”, “for sticking at maths and getting to the end”, “for being compassionate to younger brother” – valuing positive virtues and behaviours. (They find these books periodically and still sit to read them at 12+14 yo!)

~ Saturday morning was banking/trading day. Count up of rings, a time of encouragement, read out the citations in front of the whole family (and choosing their favourite citation), and I would bag items from the bottom gift drawer they could choose blind (could only poke bag with index finger – this was a funny part of the process) and 5 rings would be equiv to a $2 item (not food). They could save up more rings and bank real money [because money is for spending, saving, investing to make more money, and for giving away].
Also Sat morn was getting toys out of toy jail (the things repeatedly left lying around) – often with a cost of 2+ reward rings.

~ Now they are 12+14YO, we’ve just started rings again now worth 50c for an impeccably tidy bedroom (each day), also the chn can earn rings (cos I never have money on me!) for ironing shirts ($2 for 5 shirts of good quality iron), and 3 batches of cooking (of what Mum wants) also netts $2. This money goes towards camps and special events they want to go to (they pay half).

~ If grandparents give them money I do not expect them to buy foodstuffs with it. Banking some IS expected.