While he is away …

While he is away …

Make a Plan

  • Be Patient and Trustful
  • Keep your spirit uplifted and your body healthy and vigorous
  • Keep yourself busy
  • Serve someone else – don’t live in survival mode or selfish mode
  • Invite someone over for a homemade meal who lives alone.
  • Take a meal to a friend.
  • Write a note of encouragement to someone.
  • Get outside of yourself.

 

Hang Out With Yourself

  • Make some fun for yourself. Treat Yourself List your ways here ….
  • Lose yourself in a good cup of tea – it can change the world
  • Play guitar or keyboard – learn some new tunes
  • Go to bed way before midnight.
  • Keep exercising regularly and start taking dancing or gym classes.
  • Start a new course or hobby. Establish little goals and work on enhancing your abilities in a certain field or focus on learning a new skill or language.
  • Catch up on your TV Shows – or art and craft that you haven’t done for a while
  • Acknowledge your feelings. Don’t go in to hiding.
  • Plot his journey on a map. Pray blessings on his days.
  • Keep note of your feelings plus the big topics of conversation to talk about on his return (not the first day). Some things are not best to talk/write about on cellphone.

 

Have A True Girls’ Night

  • Do things that build relationships with those you know or those that you don’t yet know.
  • Catch up with some old friends you haven’t seen in a while – do girly things eg. haircut, mani/pedi.
  • Make good on that promise of coffee with a friend you haven’t seen in awhile.
  • Surround yourself with friends and go out with them. Plan dinners, movies and other interesting social events, and invite people over more often.
  • Be diligent in carving out time to be in God’s Word. Focus your heart, worries and affections on God
  • On his return … be patient and trusting; allow time for re-adjustment and for the traveller to rest and re-group.
  • From a variety of websites, 4 May 2017

Check out these options / ideas …

Guest, You’re Welcome Here

Guest, you are welcome here,
Be at your ease.
Get up when you’re ready,
Go to bed when you please.

We’re happy to share with you
Such as we’ve got,
The leaks in the roof
And the soup in the pot.

You don’t have to thank us
Or laugh at our jokes,
Sit deep and come often…
You’re one of the folks!

J.P. McEvoy, 1925

(Buzza Motto)

 

I’ve had this verse hanging on my fridge for about 30 years. It’s all faded and I wanted the words to recreate the banner.

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Mother Knows Best!

mother knows bestI’m chuckling here thinking again about last Thursday – another interesting day in our homeschooling life.

My 13 yo boy wakes up Thursday morning. This is the best day – sports action, then music (keyboard). Really good!

My 15 yo daughter is joking about ways to get out of going to Sports action (netball/ball skills), doesn’t want to go, would rather do anything else.

We’ve always made plans in one of three ways: 1. Mum+Dad make the decision (‘cos we’re the parents/adults and think, in the big scheme of things, this will be a good thing for you to do.
2. Let’s talk about the fors/againsts together, then M+D will ultimately make the decision, taking into account what you say.
3. Let’s talk about it, then you (children) make the decision, and M+D will work with you to help make it happen.

Sports was a #1 decision. You’re going, you’re going for at least two terms, you’re going to enjoy it, give it your best shot.

By the end of sports, 13 yo boy has badly bruised finger, realises he hasn’t brought his music, and is whimpering, declaring it’s a bad day, wanting to bail out on music (which he wasn’t allowed to).

15 yo girl enjoyed running around, seeing some different young people, and got complimented by the coach on her netball skills in the second game of netball she’s played. Let’s go to sports every day!

We’ll happily bundle into the van next Thursday, hopefully with the music bag, snacks and drinks …

Shows that sometimes we can listen too much to what our kids want and what they don’t.

Most times, Mother DOES know best!

2012 Word of the Year : Steadfast

carrsrdjune2012Steadfast

I don’t get caught in the trap of New Year’s Resolutions, which are usually doomed to fail.

I choose a word, phrase, character quality, song, or idea to meditate on, practice, engage, and dialogue with throughout the year.

http://pinterest.com/bankwhitt/2012-steadfast/

Steadfast.

Define:

What it is :

Resolutely or dutifully firm and unwavering
steady – firm – stable – constant – staunch – immovable
1. Fixed or unchanging; steady. Focussed.
2. Firmly loyal or constant; unswerving.

> steadfastness-brings-character-and-is-a-sign-of-maturity
http://mitsilancer.wordpress.com/?s=steadfast

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Bible Verses :

http://www.esvbible.org/search/steadfast/Psalms/

http://www.openbible.info/topics/being_steadfast 

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What it is not :

Changing my mind

People pleasing (includes my children)

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What it looks like in practice:

In a relationship : You are committed and dedicated to each other: your love is strong and it sustains your relationship through whatever life throws your way.

Learning to listen to God’s word

~ not needing to defend my parental position with my young teens

~ not feeling like I have to act/think in a particular way to gain someone else’s approval

– being aware of God’s always-love of me (makes me want to shout!!)

– knowing and knowing that my husband is on my side – yeah!

More Time Now I’m Off Facebook?

So, I’ve just deleted the Bookmark button to Facebook and will try to stay away from there until December 1.

I hope I do better than the Milk-Free Week I tried a few weeks ago. In that case, I did become more mindful of the huge number of things I eat with milk products in them! I failed more than once but did not give up trying until the week was out.

I have Pinterest (less time-consuming and it raises my spirit with beauty and creativity) and a couple of WordPress accounts – it’s not like I’m going cold turkey off the internet.

Here’s some videos that helped to bring about this change:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vmre4SeWunk&feature=related  – Close your Facebook account

https://www.facebook.com/help/delete_account

http://youtu.be/ZGEQmFL9McU ~ Truth Never Told – interesting 13 minute commentary * * *

As with all addictions, I need to consciously plan to change habits and to use time more constructively.

What comes to my mind?

  • play board games with my children more than one night a week,
  • read more,
  • meditate on God’s Word (Bible),
  • chat with my husband before 10 pm,
  • deep clean my room,
  • socialise with friends,
  • type up recipes and update recipe book.

… got any other ideas?

Treats allowed – sort of

One of the best ways that I lost weight in the past was to use steps and stairs instead of escalators or lifts.

I ate reasonably healthily. And went for a variety of colours on my plate.

I had an occasional treat of something *ginger*, eg gingerbread, gingernuts,

but I had:

  • no cake – or biscuits/cookies and other flour-rich foods.

  • no chocolate – or sweets/candy and other sugar-rich treats.

  • no chips (hot or cold) – or fatty foods. Limit butter and oil intake.

Everything I ate slowly …

I told myself how yummy it was –

how much I was enjoying it – and

not feeling guilty about eating it at all, even if it was one of my treats. Today we would call this ‘mindfulness’.

If you’re super organised and motivated you could also write down (use a tick system is easiest) everything everything everything you eat. This helps to keep you accountable.

In the years since, I find I control weight better when I plate a few things for lunch or snack, and then sit down at the dining room table.

Above all, enjoy life and living – and eat real food (not food products).

Because stress is no good for anything, except a slow death!

So try this: no cake, no chocolate, no chips.

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HS: Avoid Homeschool Burn-Out

Watch out for the notorious third term

– had winter (over it!), flus and coughs, cabin fever, getting tired,
maybe even need to re-evaluate what’s happening in the family.
Recognise the symptoms of depression (get help).
Be easy on yourself.

 

** Ring up a different homeschool mum/family in your district each week (or day?).
Invite them over or to a park – or invite yourselves over to their place
– take some munchies or the older kids can bake afternoon tea!
It’s important to stay face-to-face connected with each other.
Texts/emails are just not the same.

** Dance to music of all kinds.
Sketch using all sorts of media and styles.
Walk/run around a different street or park in your area each week/month.

** And repeat after me: I am a woman/parent first and foremost.
I don’t need to do ‘school at home’ in order for my children to be lovers of learning and discovery.

And I don’t need to do this alone. ♥