Who Feeds The Children?!

Parents are responsible for their children, despite the Nanny State thinking that they are.
Parents have brains.
Parents need to know the power of good nutrition.
Parents can choose to only allow “good” food habitually in their homes.
Treat foods need to not have a HOME in our homes.
Know the difference between food and food products. Choose the former.
Parents, grow up and be good parents.

4Cs – 21st Century Skills

These competencies — known as 21st-century skills — are summed up as the “4Cs”).

They include the following:

Students are able to work effectively with diverse groups and exercise flexibility in making compromises to achieve common goals.

Students are able to generate and improve on original ideas and also work creatively with others.

Students are able to communicate effectively across multiple media and for various purposes.

Critical thinking:
Students are able to analyze, evaluate, and understand complex systems and apply strategies to solve problems.

National Association of School Lunches Takes Aim at Those Who Dare to Eat at Home

by Valorie Delp

The National Association of School Lunches today, in a bold public statement, expressed their concern over untrained mothers serving lunch to their children. Says one source, “The problem is wide spread. We have mothers, who are untrained in how to serve lunches, feeding their children, in their homes. Something simply has to be done.”

The National Association of School Lunches warns parents of the possible ramifications of feeding their children at home: Children will be deprived of the social experience of eating in the cafeteria. Some important social rites of passage, such as food fights, will be completely skipped.

Students who eat at home may not get to learn how others students in other parts of the world eat. Exposure to chopsticks or eating on the floor will be completely diminished.

Students who eat at home may not get the full range of foods that are available only through the school cafeteria.

There is no quantifiable way to measure the nutritional standard of the food being served. Surely parents need to be told what foods their children must eat. Lunch eating is serious–moms could never figure this out on their own.

But the biggest argument put forth by the National Association of School Lunches is that mothers are untrained in serving lunches. They strongly feel that in order to serve school lunches, one must have taken important courses and be certified in things like serving techniques, placing the food properly on the tray, anti food-fight tactical manoeuvres and how to dollop mush. Although mothers serve their children lunches every day from birth until that child enters school, once the child is school-aged, the parent must be trained or their lack of training could be a detriment. Previous experience counts for nothing in the hard core, fast paced world of school lunch serving.

Another key concern are health and safety standards that are required by law in school cafeterias. Although I cannot explain how the phenomenon might occur, apparently home is clean enough for breakfast and dinner but during the lunch hour, homes everywhere must be attacked by germs and bacteria thus necessitating state produced standards for cleanliness for the lunch hour.

Finally, school lunch personnel everywhere are concerned about accountability. Should children have to prove that they’re getting adequate nutrition or perhaps should mothers have to submit meal plans for the year to be approved by the state department of school lunches to check and make sure that the food that’s going to be served meets nutritional standards.

Come back later as I have a feeling that there might be more from the National Association of School Lunches.


Burkha Rage



QP : Slumdogs of Mumbai

“I used to ask God why people suffer like this. Finally I came to the place where I stopped asking questions and started being the answer.” —Biju Thampy

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Based on a True Story

Based on a True Story – James Choung

– A fresh new way to understand the Christian faith
– A handy, bite-sized booklet that Christians can give to their friends

Everybody likes a good story. Especially if it’s based on true, real-life events.
But what kind of story is compelling enough to transform your life?
Can a story be powerful enough to change the whole world?

Not the 4 Laws or Bridge to Life, but the 4 Wheels.

MM : Look After Your Marriage

As a mother, wife, and woman, the best thing you can do is to nurture and care for your marriage, your prime relationship on this earth.

Without a secure relational base, the family frays around the edges.

Treat your honey as your best friend – watch your tone of voice, how you request things (to be done), how you correct, and how you fight. Yes, learn to ‘fight’ fairly – no digging up the relics from the past, no bringing in other issues not directly related to the current ‘problem’.

Take responsibility for your own feelings and actions. Oh dear, to love and respect our friend-husband-partner, we need to be(come) so grown up and giving, even endlessly unconditional and forgiving in our love. Lord, give me patience and help me to try to understand!

Look forward, not back. Look for the new and the positive. Share your hopes and dreams for yourself, have shared hopes and dreams – as a team.


Another maxim my DH and I used especially in the first few years:

And a Biblical exhortation DH and I have leaned on in recent years, referring to God’s help, but can still relate to us plus the children:
This doesn’t mean God (or anyone else) will give me what I ask for all the time, but how can I be given what I need if I don’t share that with another?

We are created for community – living together, belonging together.

Blessings on your marriage covenant,

Here’s a few helpful articles on Marriage :

Interview with William Glasser (Reality Therapy now Choice Therapy) on Happier Marriages – personal responsibilty not external control; communicate interests and expectations to other without making demands.

http://divorcemarriage.blogspot.com/2008/06/choice-theory-from-glasser-quality.html  – Edmond Tay discussing William Glasser’s book

Relationships and our Habits
Seven Caring Habits

1. Supporting
2. Encouraging
3. Listening
4. Accepting
5. Trusting
6. Respecting
7. Negotiating differences
Seven Deadly Habits
1. Criticising
2. Blaming
3. Complaining
4. Nagging
5. Threatening
6. Punishing
7. Bribing, rewarding to control


http://www.divorcebusting.com/ – Michele Weiner-Davis

ThTh : Enough Chaos

Create a Sense of Serenity

There’s enough chaos in the world, but you can instead create serenity in your personal world. Here are 7 easy ideas:

1. Get rid of one thing. If the prospect of ridding your entire house of clutter seems to be am impossible feat, make it your goal to get rid of just one thing you don’t need each day.

2. Clear the clutter out of your vehicle. Get rid of candy wrappers, soda cans, old papers, magazines and other trash on a daily basis.

3. Eliminate the chaos from your desk. The surface of your desk should be free of all papers and other debris to set the stage for productivity and creative thinking.

4. Wake up earlier. Stop rushing around each day. Wake up earlier so you have enough time to relax with a cup of coffee, to step outside and breathe in the fresh air or to read a chapter in your favorite inspirational book.

5. Dedicate 30 minutes to You. Schedule no less than 30 minutes each day to do something you love. Keep that appointment, just as you would any other important one.

6. Make your bedroom a restful haven. Every morning, make your bed right after you get up. Remove the piles of paper. Clear off the dresser tops. Put any dirty clothes in the laundry room. Remove the dusty stuff stored under the bed and get rid of anything you no longer need. When you’re ready to go to bed at night, you should be able to do so in a peaceful, uncluttered place.

7. Sprinkle in some rewards. Many people agonise just trying to get through their To Do lists. To make your day more fulfilling, while still getting things done, sprinkle rewards throughout your day. For example, take 10 minutes to do something you enjoy after every single task you complete.

http://www.getorganizednow.com/ – August 2006

I hope you noticed that I tagged this “future” – one day this may be the reality in my home! It’s good to remind myself.

Are there any homeschoolers who are immaculate cleanies??

ThTh : Decision Making

This is not an authoritative treatise on decision-making, though I’ve read plenty of them recently as I consider a new opportunity and ministry role.

How do you make decisions? With a grid analysis chart or some ranking system. Maybe you consider different criteria and options. Let your mind wander down the lane of consequences if you do – or don’t – take the position or buy that car or house. A mind map with a brainstorm, or a quad with YES, good + bad and NO, bad + good in the corners can also clarify some issues.

Maybe your God-centred worldview will encourage you to read the Bible, listen to various advisors, and line up attitudes, abilities, and what you know of God’s ways – like the ship lining up lights in the harbour channel.

Hey! It says in the Bible (Proverbs 16:33) that God controls the fall of the dice (or the coin), so it might be time-saving – and stress-saving – to just assign a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ (like ‘thummin’ and ‘urim’ of the Jews) and go with the result – and really, if you’re desperate to do the other thing – then do it! What’s the worst thing that can happen anyway?

Does God have an individual plan for your life? I’m not so certain. He gives us His wisdom and principles by which to live life – and a creative brain. We have to supply a theology of failure (and success too for that matter) – and then just make a sensible decision with the information that you’ve gathered.

Analysis paralysis cramps your style. Launch out with the confidence, joy, faith, and nerve-calming wisdom that God gives. Yep! Intelligent beings can still ask for God for His wisdom – and so often it’s a case of : You don’t have cos you don’t ask!

… I need to ask, God, for some wisdom …


It was great on the weekend at Pukehina to hear a friend outline his dreams that stretch out years ahead. They were clear and detailed.

I found it exciting and inspiring to hear these dreams explained. I live with one that if he has dreams I’m not a party to them. Anything extracted out of him is vague at best. I think his lack of formulating or expressing dreams and hopes-future means my hopes and dreams are not sought. I’m realising that I need to express my future wishes – but the sad thing is I’ve lost (or am losing) touch with what they are. I haven’t thought about what I’d like to do in the next 5-10 years – or before I retire – or die.

So, here and now, I’ll start the thinking out and writing down of my hopes or what I think they are – it will be a process. Things will change and evolve along the way. But a process us mothers – and mother-home educators – need to work through nonetheless.

What am I good at?

What do I think I will be good at (but maybe not had the opportunity to do)?

What skills do I have?

What do people tell me about me?

“Secret” dreams from throughout the years…