Anger + Gratitude

Anger + Gratitude

And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry, for anger gives a foothold to the devil. ~ Ephesians 4:26-27

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Attitudes of Anger and Gratitude

We growl at the children for ‘not getting it right’ after being told ‘a hundred times’ and we snip at our husband for not seeing that we’re tired and need their help. We expect things that may not be reasonable considering we get things wrong too.

Communicate your anger constructively rather than holding it inward to fester. Anger at unpleasant circumstances in your (earlier) life may be lurking behind your ‘over-reactions’. Learn how to express your anger in healthy ways, rather than suppressing it or using it aggressively against others. When you effectively channel energy from your anger, it won’t cause anxiety in your life.  

But in the comings and goings of family life, we need to consciously get purposeful about dealing with unmet expectations, frustrations, and disappointments.

This week, I am challenging each of us with an assignment (myself included). The next time we feel anger rising up -STOP yourself – bite your tongue, hold your hand over your mouth, walk away, do whatever it takes – and ask yourself what expectation did I have of this person that was not met.

Then try – really try – to refocus your thought on what you can be thankful for. With practice (and we get many opportunities) we really can have an attitude of gratitude. Maybe as you fall to sleep, think again of a few things for the day and in your children/spouse to be grateful for.

Mother’s Heart

What is really happening? What am I believing? when I over-react or `blow’.
May I get to the heart of the matter and not spill the lava from my inner volcano over my family.
May I deal with the anger and rubbish for each day on each day.
Lord, have mercy on me.

Gratitude Activities

• For one day, recognise the gifts of words and deeds you receive and take a moment to feel grateful; on another day add some expression of your gratitude. What are some differences?
• Take a walk and count the gifts God in nature gives you daily. Make a list, and share your observations with family or friends.
• What was the best advice someone ever gave you? Send the giver a postcard acknowledging the effects of that gift. Be specific.
• Make a list of your 10 most valued material possessions. For what would you trade them?
• Create a mind map of all the gifts in your life. A mind map is a shape divided into all the sub-components – such as physical, emotional, cognitive, material, and spiritual gifts.


Links 

Every Mother Can Keep Her Cool –

Anger Management Not Applicable – been there, done that … 

Angry Mother, Wounded Daughter – blog – see also the Resources listed below article.

Tell your children and your favourite people that you love and care about them,

Blessings on each one of you, dear Readers, as you journey through the imperfections of Life,

Johanna

Mother’s Day ~ every day

Prayers from a Mother’s Heart – MOPS

http://www.mops.org/forms/Prayers_Oct08.pdf – short, sweet and from a mother’s heart

God is able

Take heart.

When out of your comfort zone, know that God all the more is with you.

Ask Him for the help you need.

He is able!

Learn to love your role of mother,  teacher, counsellor, helper, …
Johanna

Sinai Covenant and Marriage Covenant

Sinai Covenant and Marriage Covenant

It is an enlightening exercise to compare the Sinai covenant with the marriage covenant by interpreting the Ten Commandments as ten principles of conduct for married people.

Paul Stevens has produced a most perceptive comparison between the two covenants by means of the following table:

Covenant Between                           Covenant Between
Israel and Yahweh                          Wife and Husband

1. No other Gods                           1. Exclusive loyalty to my spouse

2. No graven image                     2. Truthfulness and faithfulness

3. Not taking the Lord’s name in vain 
                                                             3. Honoring my spouse in public and private

4. Remembering the Sabbath day 4. Giving my spouse time and rest

5. Honoring father and mother 5. Rightly relating to parents and in-laws

6. No murder                               6. Freedom from hatred and destructive anger

7. No adultery                            7. Sexual faithfulness; controlled appetites

8. No stealing                             8. True community of property with the gift of privacy

9. No false testimony             9. Truthful communication

10. No coveting                        10. Contentment: freedom from demands.

http://www.angelfire.com/journal/oneflesh/commandments.html

R. Paul Stevens, Married for Good (Downers Grove, Illinois, 1986), pp. 87-88

Cooperative Life

Cooperative effort makes life much sweeter for EVERYONE.

There’s a Maori (native NZer) saying that goes:

Nau te rourou Naku te rourou Ka ora ai ki te manuhiri
With your (food) basket and my basket It will be good health for all our
guests

Everyone helping everyone, life is about giving and taking,
“It’s more blessed to give than receive” (Acts 20:35),
shalom,
johanna

Tomorrow Starts Today – Day of Rest


Remember the Sabbath day to sanctify it

(Hebrew: Zakhor et yom ha-Shabbat l’kad’sho)   – Exodus 20:8

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– Tomorrow Starts Tonight

With little children around, you can get busy – so busy you may even forget to rest and nurture yourself.

God gave the Jews the right idea and I wish I had practiced this from the beginning. Your Day of Rest starts the night before. Pre-prepare your food, lay out clothes, and organise anything for the following day before sundown. Then your Day of Rest is really a DAY of REST. This rushing around, getting organised for church, and bustling here and there I don’t think is really what God had in mind for our day of rest (Sunday?).

Shabbat (Hebrew:  shabbatshabbos; “rest” or “cessation”) is the seventh day of the Jewish week and a day of rest in JudaismShabbat is observed from sundown Friday until the appearance of three stars in the sky on Saturday night. It recalls the Biblical Creation account inGenesis, describing God creating the Heavens and the Earth in six days, and resting on and sanctifying the seventh (Genesis 1:1-2:3).

Sabbath (Shabbat) in the Bible is considered a festive day, a weekly day of rest and time of worship, when a person is freed from the regular labours of everyday life, can contemplate the spiritual aspects of life, and can spend time with family. It is the only ritual observance instituted in the Ten Commandments. Traditionally, on that day three festive meals are eaten — on Shabbat-eve, at lunch, and as an end-of-Shabbat evening meal. It is observed differently in Judaism and Christianity.

Do more reading on this – maybe even explore having a Shabbat meal with friends. A meal of Blessing. Awaiting the Bride – the Sabbath. A day to celebrate God, His earth – and the fulness of it.

 

Mother’s Heart

May I give thought as to how to better enjoy my Day of Rest. This is important for me as a mum.

 

Link

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Shabbat

 

Mother’s Day ~ every day

Parenting TIP : KISS

Remember, keep things simple and make life work for your situation without sacrificing any family member’s sanity.