I’ve taken snippets from this article that considers change.
What will really make a difference to your performance?
- Change is risky. What if the changes harm our performance instead of improving it? Why fix it if it isn’t broken? … This is the classic bind. We can know no significant improvement in performance unless we risk damaging our performance.
- Change feels unnatural – I’m happy doing things this way, I don’t want to change, change means becoming a different person, someone who isn’t me. … But it [can leave] me feeling rather uncomfortable.
- Change can be painful. It involves letting go of things that may be dear to us and are actually a part of us. “That’s me, that’s what I do”. It’s akin to mourning. … A friend of mine tells me about his friend who is totally blown apart by retirement. Retirement involved a loss of something that had become essential to him. For him, ending his life of work seems no different to ending his life.
Change is the only realistic and renewable strategy for moving on to the next level. However, because commitment to change requires a willingness to live with fear and discomfort we tend to resist change.
Our behaviour is determined by our beliefs. Unless we change our beliefs we won’t make lasting changes to our behaviour.
… Old beliefs have to be diligently discarded just as the new ones are taken on.
… There’s a word for this. Unfortunately it has become mystified and reserved for religious use: Repentance. Thinking again, changing the way we think. This is what will really make a difference to our performance. This is what will get us to the next level.
- Believe there is such a thing as truth
- Be hungry for truth
- Be open to hear what people have to say to us
- Have the courage to be willing to admit we are wrong
- Test what they say
- Reject it if it isn’t true
- Accept it if it is true
- Identify our old, unhelpful belief
- Deliberately, repeatedly discard it
- Choose new belief
- Deliberately, repeatedly accept it
- Enjoy the freedom our belief brings as it changes our behaviour
As with many things the way to minimise the damage of a harmful change is the trial. Try out a new belief based on something you think is probably true and then reject it later if it proves to be otherwise.
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